Location: Halstead, Kansas, United States

This is my seventh year at Halstead which is also where I live with my wife and my soon to be two year old daughter.

Friday, August 20, 2004

Predicting Who Will Get Divorced? (SOCIOLOGY)

According to Mari Clements their are certain traits that help to predict if a couple will remain married or get a divorce. Among these traits for successful marriages are:

The ability to listen
Treating one another with respect
positive communication

FOR DISCUSSION: What traits do you feel are essential in friendships or within the work place?


Blogger Corey Wells said...

i agree with the first three elements that you listed in your article....listening is very important along with respect and positive communication..but also there needs to be some feeling of trust and a close bond between the two people..also there usually should be a common ground that they share such as similarities in personality or political views...that is just my opinion....

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Blogger Casey Jack said...

Hmm - I read that article as well. It kind of surprised me to find it on the front page of Yahoo! News. It's not surprising that they list those traits as helpful to marriages. When you really think about it, you wonder why you didn't realize it before.

In my opinion, some other important characteristics people in relationships (as friends or romantic relationships) would be the ability to forgive, being a little outgoing, and the ability to share your food.

Sharing food always helps.

7:49 PM  
Blogger Kacy Sue said...

I agree to have a GOOD relationship you have to have the ability to talk! I don't think you can have a good relationship with anyone without being able to talk to them. Also you have to treat them with respect who would want yo be with someone who doesn't treat them right? And Positive communication is a big thing you need too. I also agree with Corey you do need to have some trust! I couldn't be with anyone who i didn't trust. I also agree with him to have some common grounds but i don't think it is totally necesscary to have them in Politics. But i do think you should have a common ground on religion. That would be a big one for me. I also agree with Casey that you need to be able to forgive, but not so much on the sharing food thing. SORRY CASEY!! Well that is what i think!

10:07 PM  
Blogger Mr. Warsnak said...

I think you make some valid points Kacy and keep those ideas in mind during the next assignment. Continue the good work and you got full credit for writing a comment. Good Job.

11:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

In this piece I agree that you have to listen to one another and that little negitive comments add up. No matter what you may think they could hurt the person you are talking about. Listening to one another is the most important thing in a relationship. And in a conflict or a hard time if all you can say to someone is how stupid they are or negitive comments like that then you have a problem. BUT I also agree that most problems that cause diviorces can be worked out in therapy, if you go with an open mind.

8:34 PM  
Blogger K.P said...

Having a friendship with anyone can sometimes be tough. Sometimes there might be more give and take on one side of the relationship than there is on the other, and sometimes that goes unnoticed by the one who takes and takes. Listening is very important within friendships. When you tell your problems to a friend, you should always be there for them when they need you to listen. If two people dont have any respect for each other than why are they friends? If someone disrespects you, you dont want to be around them. Communication is what keeps people togethe. Without communication, important thoughts can go unsaid.

6:22 PM  
Blogger JadaRae said...

With any kind of relationship you almost need to have those three traits. When you are friends with someone it is very important to be able to listen and communicate in a positive way. Other wise there is no point in point in being friend if you are unable to talk. Listening is very important in a friendship as well. It helps build up trust and respect for one another. Like marraige, friendships take a lot of hard work and communication. With out communication you would not have the respect and understanding for a person no matter what the relationship.

12:23 PM  
Blogger lila said...

i agree with what she said but you also have to have a open mind on things. You should also be able to give postive critisism.

4:21 PM  
Blogger Caboose said...

I agree with her 100%. I think the part about "New research shows certain relationship skills -- or the lack of them -- can predict whether two people are headed for marital bliss or a painful breakup." is the part of a relasonship that is often overlooked. Comeing from a seperated famliy i belive that over time the negitives of a relasonship just become an everyday thing and althow ignored they still have an effect on it.

4:45 PM  
Blogger kayc b said...

ok first is that i do think that all of the qualities or the abilities mentioned were or are a neccessity for a good relationship and no matter wheter you are married or not you need to be able to get along and be respectful in conflict. There are all sorts of needed actions or attitudes between friends but people act differently and sometimes you just cant be nice in a confrentation so that is my thought and this is me signing off with agreement and respectful disagreement to the article.......

8:10 PM  
Blogger Ashley S. said...

I feel that all three traits are needed in friendships. The ability to listen is needed in friendships to know how the other is feeling. If you can't communicate before you get married, the chances of the communication getting better are slim. In a relationship whether it be marriage or friendship, treating one another with respect is very important. Showing respect provides the other a feeling of love and trust. The positive communication refers to the ability to listen. If there is no communication or listening, your relationship will slowly fall apart.

9:37 PM  
Blogger Ashley Douglas said...

I agree with the 3 traits for a successful marriage, but i also think that they need to be friends and enjoy being together. You can have the ability to listen and treat one another with respect and have positive communication, but if you dont want to be with that person then the 3 traits dont matter anymore. I think that friends should be able to listen and enjoy being around each other.

9:44 PM  
Blogger Aaron McDaniel said...

i think that all three of those keys to a good marriage actually help in a friendship as well. You need trust, listening communication, and respect. You cant be friends with sometone if you dont respect them. Sorry this is late Mr. Warsnak

5:29 PM  

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